When to start dating after losing a spouse
I think about it in 2nd grade terms, “I like a person, I would like to see them again.
I don’t like a person, I don’t want to see them again” That applies to all people – men, women, romantic or platonic.
Should she have cut it as soon as she felt that she was developing feelings for the guy? should she continue seeing the guy, enjoy dating him as much as she can while she can, and not worry about the outcome of the situation too much, without thinking about the future too much?
I don’t think any woman can find an absolute and unequivocal answer to this question, and I frankly don’t believe that such an answer exists, as it would heavily depend on that specific woman’s goals and needs at that specific point in her life.
An older woman might have the greatest time of her life dating an energetic, exciting, attractive young man, but she is also likely to feel that she is wasting her time being with a younger guy and knowing that it is not going to turn into a long-term relationship, instead of pursuing a relationship with a man with whom she could establish a family and have children in the nearest future as the biology would dictate to a woman who is aware that her biological clock is ticking.
But then again – not every woman wants family and children.
Certainly, commitment, family and children are the last thing on those women’s mind who felt “suffocated” in their prior relationship or marriage, went through a challenging divorce or a painful break-up, and who feel the urge to enjoy and celebrate their newly found freedom.
When I was dating prolifically, I’d be going out with two or three women at a time. But no matter what, I was looking to keep my options open, have fun, and sometimes get a little action.“Instead of thinking in terms of black and white (He likes me/he doesn’t like me), think in terms of grey.Isn’t it possible that a guy can be out, enjoying your company, being thoughtful, telling you you’re beautiful, kissing you at the end of the night, and never call you again? I am not a man, so it’s difficult for me to understand. For example, if I like a guy, and I had a good time on a date, I’d like to see him again.As a result of that increased romantic passion and sexual connection, the two people are actually more likely to develop strong feelings for each other and to feel very attached to each other – something they never planned for, but also something that happens quite often and is so far beyond their control.This is in large because it is simply impossible for a man and a woman to have a great time with each other, enjoy a special sexual connection over a long period of time and not develop feelings for each other.
It is not rare to see a younger guy and an older woman date and have a very intense sexual and romantic relationship, which defies the traditional “older man, younger woman” set-up that we are used to seeing. First, the fact that such a dating situation is still somewhat taboo makes is all the more enticing and exciting.