Tips for dating a single children coping with parents dating
It took me a long time to get over the stigma of being a single parent – especially when it came to dating.
But, believe it or not, not all of us single moms are recent divorcées scrolling through silver fox profiles on Match.
When you’re a parent, things can feel even tougher.
When I first started dating again after my son (who is now three) was born, my confidence and self-belief couldn’t have been lower.
But it’s taken me a while and a lot of bad dates to get here. When I first returned to dating, I didn’t mention my son on my online dating profiles, or when I met men in real life.
Because of the stigma surrounding single parents and myths I was believing at the time, my subconscious told me I would have more luck keeping my profile baby-free. On my first date after being pregnant, dumped and giving birth – when my self-esteem had hit rock bottom – I sat opposite a man who visibly quivered when I revealed I was a mum and compared my child to his ongoing battle with Crohn’s disease.
My personal solution here is to ask my boyfriends to work by the rules of a public swimming pool: if you wouldn’t get away with it there, don’t do it in front of my son. But it also means more special time as a couple when you do manage to escape for those precious nights away (once you’ve found a very trusted babysitter, of course).